It always annoys me (Richard) a little that the first question I’m asked when meeting someone is, “What do you do?” — as though my career or job is the most important and telling thing about me.
So sometimes, to switch it up, I answer, “Oh, I’m a homemaker.”
It gets some interesting reactions. The other day a guy said, “Oh, you mean you’re a stay-at-home-dad?”
“As much as my job will let me,” I replied, totally confusing him.
I think I would like it better, and it would be a better get-to-know-you question, if new acquaintances asked, “Who are you in your own mind?” or “What is the most important thing to you?”
To either of those questions I would answer, “I’m a dad.”
Let me give you a few reasons why:
I love my kids more than anyone on Earth, except Linda.
I’ve learned more and grown more from being a dad than from any other experience.
It’s more fun than anything else I do.
I actually believe it is a role I will never tire of or be released from.
We often speak and present to various chapters of a worldwide group called YPO (Young Presidents Organization). To join, you have to be president of a $10 million company before turning 40, so as you can imagine these are very aggressive, very accomplished people.
At one chapter event where we spoke, in Scotland, they had created a theme centered on how everything else done in life is done in support of the home and family, and on the cover of their program was a quote from the chapter chairman that said, “There is no time when I feel more a true man than when I am being a good dad to my children.”
It was close to a rare serious quote from the usually funny Bill Cosby: “Nothing I’ve ever done has given me more joys and rewards than being a father to my children.”3 comments on this story
As Father’s Day approaches, many of us will get good wishes and gratitude from our children for being their dads.
But this year, I am going to reverse it and send thank-you cards to my kids, because I am convinced, deeply so, that they have given much more to me than I have given to them.
Richard and Linda Eyre are New York Times best-selling authors who lecture throughout the world on family-related topics. Visit them anytime at www.EyresFreeBooks.com or www.valuesparenting.com. Their latest Deseret e-book is “On the Homefront."