To dead
Some people in your family may be insensitive and manipulative, but you should not let their behavior change wether you feel you belong to the family. You are part of the family, they cannot change that. I'm sure there will be many other family members happy to see you at the family reunion despite the ill manners of a few. You can chose to forgive them and enjoy the associations of the other family members. By chosing to love and forgive them you will feel happier and be a good example to them of how to handle differences. How unfortunate it would be to lose the association of family. My husband has relatives that live close who would not even recognize eachother if they passed eachother on the street because of a quarrel decades ago. The quarrel of a few siblings has estranged their children and grandchildren, we don't even know them. There are bound to be differences and conflicts in families. Forgiveness and love is a gift to them, to yourself and your posterity.

To not dead and buried yet- was what I meant to write. I couldn't remember it, so just wrote my response and submitted comment before checking again the name signed. Sorry!